When it comes to delightful combinations of our M&Ms (Mentors/Mentees), there are certain ingredients that must come together as well. Who better to offer insight than those actively involved in the process? In the words of a building principal, a mentor teacher, and a first year teacher:
An effective mentor is someone who works to develop a relationship with the mentee so that the mentee feels comfortable discussing the ins and outs of being an educator, who takes time to foster the relationship with the mentee by checking in formally and informally to ensure that his/her needs are being met, and who builds up the mentee. (Principal)
An effective mentor demonstrates active listening, models a positive example, and is adaptable to the needs of their mentee. An effective mentor provides encouragement and support (and is a cheerleader for their mentee when necessary). (Mentor)
My mentor is most effective when she's helping me with the everyday aspects of running my classroom--helping me learn the "hidden rules" and procedures that may not be in writing anywhere but are important that I know. (Mentee)
Combining the ingredients effectively requires attention to specific details:
When pairing mentors and mentees together, it is important to look at the positions the individuals are currently teaching in. Additionally, it is critical to consider the personalities of both the mentor and mentee. (Principal)
When pairing mentors and mentees, it is important to consider their teaching and learning styles. There is great benefit to observing and collaborating with those who do things differently. Once paired, mentors and mentees must practice and work toward establishing a safe relationship, where growth can occur in a comfortable environment. (Mentor)
I appreciate the fact that my mentor supports me in developing my own teaching style. (Mentee)
The makers of M & Ms™ know that some combinations just wouldn't be a hit. Tofu M&Ms™ are not likely to be hitting retail shelves in the future, for instance. When creating Mentor/Mentee relationships, there are certain things to avoid as well:
An effective mentor is not an evaluator and should not be demeaning to the mentee. (Principal)
Mentors should not come across as controlling and/or cause the mentee to feel insufficient or stressed. (Mentor)
Having a mentor share too much information at one time does not support a new teacher in learning what’s important. (Mentee)
When all the right ingredients come together in the mentor/mentee relationship, there are satisfying results for everyone!
